Being a parent is the most responsible role one can have. Parents always worry about their children regardless of how old they are and a recent study has just proven that. Namely, parents still lose sleep getting stressed about their adult children.

The study analyzed the correlation between how much parents worry about their children and the amount of sleep they get.

The findings have shown that regardless of the children’s age parents will still worry about their health, financial situation, careers, relationships, and overall well-being even in the children’s adulthood.

The study involved 186 middle-aged parents who were supposed to provide answers to three questions: how much stressed they are; how much support they offer to their children and whether they get enough sleep.

They had to rate the types of support they offer to their children on a scale of 1 to 8 including financial support or emotional one, such as discussing daily events or giving some advice.

The parents were also asked to rate how stressful it is for them to help their adult children and how much they worry about them on a scale from 1 to 5.

Finally, they were supposed to give answers for the sleep quantity they get every night. The husbands announced sleeping 6.69 hours per night while wives reported sleeping 6.66 hours.

According to the results, husbands who provided support for their adult children had poorer sleep but they slept more in comparison to their wives. Wives, on the other hand, were also very supportive but that did not affect the amount of sleep they got.

The findings imply that giving support itself affected husbands, while wives were more affected by stressing over whether they give enough support or not.

Scientists also suggest that parents should consider the level of their involvement in their children’s lives because the relationship they have with their adult children can affect all areas of their lives.

Therefore, here are some tips which can help you to avoid the consequences of constant worrying:

• Make sure you find time for yourself
• Take part in some community activities
• Don’t make your children the center of your universe
• Don’t take it personally when your children do things differently from you
• Let go of all the negative thoughts about your children’s future
• Avoid labeling your children (both positively and negatively)
• Let your children face the consequences of their own actions
• Keep in mind that you cannot control everything
• Work on developing a stronger bond with your children by getting to know them better

Source:

  1. academic.oup.com
  2. www.reuters.com
  3. www.cbsnews.com